I read Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat Hanh a few years back while I was in a struggling relationship filled with anger. Thich Nhat Hanh’s wisdom and insight was a wonderful help.
Did his techniques completely remove my anger? Nothing is that simple. But his guidance did help which benefited both that relationship, my work relationships and every relationship that has come after.
I still struggle with my temper. I recently picked up Pema Chodrön’s Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears which when combined with that I learned from Anger by Thich Nhat Hanh has been incredible for me.
Do I still lose control? Yes, but far less frequently and I can often remove myself from the situation and return when I am ready to listen and not react emotionally.